OUR SELF ESTEEM .....

A person with a lot of self-confidence has a healthy self-esteem?
If you answered true you're like most people (myself included)who think there's a connection. The truth is self-confidence is our belief in an ability we possess, while self-esteem is much deeper. It's how much we value ourselves --- or more simply, how much we like (and love) ourselves.

When I came to the realization that I had a low self-esteem I was shocked because I was very self-confident. But the longer I looked at it, the more I realized that I had developed that self-confidence to try and make up for the poor self-esteem. And when I looked around at others I knew who were excessively self-confident, I could see the signs of low self-esteem.

Case in point: Take former boxing world champion Mike Tyson.Does he appear to be self-confident? Absolutely. Even overlyconfident when it comes to boxing. But his actions in recent years scream a different story when it comes to esteem. His many acts of self-sabotage are undeniable evidence of a person who deep down in their knower actually hates who they are.
It is impossible to live a happy and successful life with a lowself-esteem!

Does that sound like a rash statement? Well, stop and think about it. People with low esteem judge themselves harshly and usually engage in derisive self-talk. How can you be happy if you don't like the person you're with 24 hours a day, seven days a week?

Most people may not even be aware they have a low (or no) self-esteem. Because it usually occurs over time, most of us don'teven realize we're without it. We just know we feel miserable deep down inside most of the time. We might try to mask it with alcohol, drugs or certain behaviors, but that only contributes to a further decline in esteem.
Do you relate to any of these signs of a low self-esteem:
* Constantly comparing yourself to others

* Regular feelings of being victimized or taken advantage of

* Frequent criticism of others or of circumstances

* Constantly apologizing to others

* Denigrating yourself when talking to others

* Fear of change

* Frequent regrets about past decisions

* Engaging in regular self-sabotage

A low self-esteem can be manifested in many behaviors: unhealthyweight gain (or loss), being the abuser in a relationship as well as being the abused, among many others.

Thinking hard

Here I am sitting in my officeThinking hard about lifeHow it changed from a maverick college life to strict professional life…...

How tiny pocket money changed to huge monthly paychecksbut then why does it gives less happiness….

How a few local denim jeans changed to new branded wardrobebut then why there are less people to use them

How a single plate of samosa changed to a full Pizza or burgerBut then why there is less hunger…..

Here I am sitting in my office …Thinking hard about lifeHow it changed…..

How a bike always in reserve changed to bike always onbut then why there are less places to go on……

How a small coffee shop changed to cafe coffee daybut then why its feels like shop is far away…..

How a limited prepaid card changed to postpaid packagebut then why there are less calls & more messages……

Here I am sitting in my office …Thinking hard about life How it changed…..

How a general class journey changed to Flight journeyBut then why there are less vacations for enjoyment….

How a old assembled desktop changed to new branded laptopbut then why there is less time to put it on……….

How a small bunch of friends changed to office mateBut then why we always feel lonely n miss those college/school frnz.….

Here I am sitting in my office…Thinking hard about life

How it changed….. How it changed……..

वो नन्हे हाथ .....

वो नन्हे हाथ
मुझे मेरे बचपन की याद दिलाते है...
जब परेशानी के समंदर में तैरता हूँ
वो मेरा ह्रदय बहलाते है

वो नन्हे हाथ
मुझे मेरे बचपन की याद दिलाते है...
जब लड़ थक कर हारा सा लगता हूँ
उसकी छोटी सी हिम्मत
मुझे फिर से लड़ने की ताकत दे जाते है

वो नन्हे हाथ
मुझे मेरे बचपन की याद दिलाते है॥
जब हिचकते है अपनों से बताने
उनका मासूम alahrpan
हमें बिना कुछ कहे
बहुत saari बात कह jaate hai

वो नन्हे हाथ
मुझे मेरे बचपन की याद दिलाते है...
जब अपने सपने अधूरे लगने लगते है
वो आसमा में घर बनाते है
हमें उसे पूरे करने की आस दे जाते है

वो नन्हे हाथ
मुझे मेरे बचपन की याद दिलाते है...

This poem is dedicated to my one & half of year old nephew. We can learn many small things from childrens...they are innocent, struggler ....

dreams

IN YOUR SWEETEST DREAM:


I made a little wish last night,
I do hope it comes true,
I wished for something special,
Something just for you!

I looked up into the night's sky
And beckoned to the wishing star,
"I wish I may, I wish I might"
I whispered from afar...

I wished for you the sweetest dreams
To fill your head at night,
And may your loving heart be filled
With happiness, warmth and delight!

ये ज़िन्दगी भी..

Yeh Zindagi Bhi Kya Kya Humko Dekhlati Hai
Sapno Ki Dhundli Raah Mein
Yeh Zindagi Bhi Humein Kahan Le Ke Aajati Hai
Ek Anjani Si Chaah Mein
Jane Humko Kya Paana Hai, Socho Kya Hai Apni Manzil
Samjhane Kab Mana Hai, Dekho Karta Zid Hai Yeh Dil
Choone Hai Taare Ise, Chahiye Saaare Ise


Yeh Zindagi Bhi Kitni Baatein Keh Jati Hai
Ek Seedhi Saadhi Baat Mein
Yeh Zindagi Bhi Kyun Itne Khwaab Sajati Hai
Har Suni Suni Raat Mein
Khawabon Mein Koi Armaan Hai
Poocho Dil Se Armaan Kya Hai
Muskil Hai Ya Woh Aasaan Hai
Sun Lo Dil To Yeh Kehta Hai
Choone Hai Taare Ise, Chahiye Saaare Ise

(Jo Palko Ke Tale Hai Apne Sapne Leke Chale
Hai Kehdo Woh Chale Sambhal Ke
Na Karna Koi Gile Kahin Jo Thokar Kahin To Lage
Ke Sapne Tute Aason Chalke) - 2
Yeh Zindagi Bhi Kya Kya Humko Dekhlati Hai
Sapno Ki Dhundli Raah Mein
Yeh Zindagi Bhi Humein Kahan Le Ke Aajati Hai
Ek Anjani Si Chaah Mein
Jane Humko Kya Paana Hai, Socho Kya Hai Apni Manzil
Samjhane Kab Mana Hai, Dekho Karta Zid Hai Yeh Dil
Choone Hai Taare Ise, Chahiye Saaare Ise
(Jo Palko Ke Tale, Hai Apne Sapne Leke Chale
Hai Kehdo Woh Chale Sambhal Ke
Na Karna Koi Gile, Kahin Jo Thokar Kahin To Lage
Ke Sapne Tute Aason Chalke..) - 3

भगवान् के प्लान - थी म्य्स्तेरिऔस वे

Once there were three trees on a hill in the woods. They were discussing their hopes and dreams when the first tree said,

'Someday I hope to be a treasure chest. I could be filled with gold, silver and precious gems. I could be decorated with intricate carving and everyone would see the beauty.'

Then the second tree said, 'Someday I will be a mighty ship. I will take kings and queens across the waters and sail to the corners of the world. Everyone will feel safe in me because of the strength of my hull.'

Finally the third tree said, 'I want to grow to be the tallest and straightest tree in the forest. People will see me on top of the Hill and look up to my branches, and think of the heavens and God and how close to them I am reaching. I will be the greatest tree of all time and people will always remember me.'

After a few years of praying that their dreams would come true, a group of woodsmen came upon the trees. When one came to the first tree he said, 'This looks like a strong tree, I think I should be able to sell the wood to a carpenter, 'and he began cutting it down. The tree was happy, because he knew that the carpenter would make him into a treasure chest.

At the second tree the woodsman said, 'This looks like a strong tree. I should be able to sell it to the shipyard.' The second tree was happy because he knew he was on his way to becoming a mighty ship.

When the woodsmen came upon the third tree, the tree was frightened because he knew that if they cut him down his dreams would not come true. One of the Woodsmen said, 'I don't need anything special from my tree, I'll take this one,' and he cut it down.

When the first tree arrived at the carpenters, he was made into a feed box for animals. He was then placed in a barn and filled with hay. This was not at all what he had prayed for.

The second tree was cut and made into a small fishing boat. His dreams of being a mighty ship and carrying kings had come to an end.

The third tree was cut into large pieces, and left alone in the dark.

The years went by, and the trees forgot about their dreams.

Then one day, a man and woman came to the barn. She gave birth and they placed the baby in the hay in the feed box that was made from the first tree. The man wished that he could have made a crib for the baby, but this manger would have to do. The tree could feel the importance of this event and knew that it had held the greatest treasure of all time -It was baby JESUS

Years later, a group of men got in the fishing boat made from the second tree. One of them was tired and went to sleep. While they were out on the water, a great storm arose and the tree didn't think it was strong enough to keep the men safe. The men woke the sleeping man, and He stood and said 'Peace' and the Storm stopped. At this time, the tree knew that it had carried the King of Kings in its boat - LORD JESUS

Finally, someone came and got the third tree. It was carried through the streets as the people mocked the man who was carrying it. When they came to a stop, the man was nailed to the tree and raised in the air to die at the top of a hill. When Sunday came, the tree came to realize that it was strong enough to stand at the top of the hill and be as close to God as was possible, because Jesus had been crucified on it.

The moral of this story is that when things don't seem to be going your way, always know that God has a plan for you. If you place your trust in Him, God will give you great gifts.

Each of the trees got what they wanted, just not in the way they had imagined.

We don't always know what God's plans are for us. We just know that His ways are not our ways, but His ways are always best.

जीवन की आपाधापी में .....हरी वंश राय बच्हन

MY ALL TIME FAVOURITE..

जीवन की आपाधापी में कब वक़्त मिला
कुछ देर कहीं पर बैठ कभी यह सोच सकूं
जो किया, कहा, माना उसमें क्या बुरा भला।
जिस दिन मेरी चेतना जगी मैंने देखा
मैं खड़ा हुआ हूँ इस दुनिया के मेले में,
हर एक यहाँ पर एक भुलाने में भूला
हर एक लगा है अपनी अपनी दे-ले
में कुछ देर रहा हक्का-बक्का, भौचक्का-सा,
आ गया कहाँ, क्या करूँ यहाँ, जाऊँ किस जा?
फिर एक तरफ से आया ही तो धक्का-सा
मैंने भी बहना शुरू किया उस रेले में,
क्या बाहर की ठेला-पेली ही कुछ कम थी,
जो भीतर भी भावों का ऊहापोह मचा,
जो किया, उसी को करने की मजबूरी थी,
जो कहा, वही मन के अंदर से उबल चला,
जीवन की आपाधापी में कब वक़्त मिला
कुछ देर कहीं पर बैठ कभी यह सोच सकूं
जो किया, कहा, माना उसमें क्या बुरा भला।
मेला जितना भड़कीला रंग-रंगीला था,
मानस के अन्दर उतनी ही कमज़ोरी थी,
जितना ज़्यादा संचित करने की ख़्वाहिश थी,
उतनी ही छोटी अपने कर की झोरी थी,
जितनी ही बिरमे रहने की थी अभिलाषा,
उतना ही रेले तेज ढकेले जाते थे,
क्रय-विक्रय तो ठण्ढे दिल से हो सकता है,
यह तो भागा-भागी की छीना-छोरी थी;
अब मुझसे पूछा जाता है क्या बतलाऊँक्या मान अकिंचन बिखराता पथ पर आया,
वह कौन रतन अनमोल मिला ऐसा मुझको,
जिस पर अपना मन प्राण निछावर कर आया,
यह थी तकदीरी बात मुझे गुण दोष न दोजिसको समझा था सोना,
वह मिट्टी निकली,जिसको समझा था आँसू, वह मोती निकला।
जीवन की आपाधापी में कब वक़्त मिला
कुछ देर कहीं पर बैठ कभी यह सोच सकूं
जो किया, कहा, माना उसमें क्या बुरा भला।
मैं कितना ही भूलूँ, भटकूँ या भरमाऊँ,है एक कहीं मंज़िल जो मुझे बुलाती है,
कितने ही मेरे पाँव पड़े ऊँचे-नीचे,
प्रतिपल वह मेरे पास चली ही आती है,
मुझ पर विधि का आभार बहुत-सी बातों का।
पर मैं कृतज्ञ उसका इस पर सबसे ज़्यादा -नभ ओले बरसाए,
धरती शोले उगले,अनवरत समय की चक्की चलती जाती है,
मैं जहाँ खड़ा था कल उस थल पर आज नहीं,
कल इसी जगह पर पाना मुझको मुश्किल है,
ले मापदंड जिसको परिवर्तित कर देतीं
केवल छूकर ही देश-काल की सीमाएँजग दे मुझपर फैसला उसे जैसा भैये
लेकिन मैं तो बेरोक सफ़र में जीवन के
इस एक और पहलू से होकर निकल चला।
जीवन की आपाधापी में कब वक़्त मिला
कुछ देर कहीं पर बैठ कभी यह सोच सकूं
जो किया, कहा, माना उसमें क्या बुरा भला।

जब समय मिले तो सोचे मिल के

जो किया , कहा , माना उसमें क्या बुरा भला ॥

जब लगे बुरा तो मिल बैठ के निपटा ले हम

ऐसा न हो की उस बात को दिल में बैठा ले हम

फिर पछताए अन्तिम पड़ाव में जीवन के

जीवन की आपाधापी में कब वक़्त मिला
कुछ देर कहीं पर बैठ कभी यह सोच सकूं
जो किया, कहा, माना उसमें क्या बुरा भला।

last blue stanza is written by me.

चाँद और कवि

रात यों कहने लगा मुझसे गगन का चाँद,आदमी भी क्या अनोखा जीव होता है!उलझनें अपनी बनाकर आप ही फँसता,और फिर बेचैन हो जगता, न सोता है।
जानता है तू कि मैं कितना पुराना हूँ?मैं चुका हूँ देख मनु को जनमते- लाखों बार तुझ-से पागलों को भीचाँदनी में बैठ स्वप्नों पर सही करते।
आदमी का स्वप्न? है वह बुलबुला जल काआज बनता और कल फिर फूट जाता हैकिन्तु, फिर भी धन्य ठहरा आदमी ही तो?बुलबुलों से खेलता, कविता बनाता है।
मैं न बोला किन्तु मेरी रागिनी बोली,देख फिर से चाँद! मुझको जानता है तू?स्वप्न मेरे बुलबुले हैं? है यही पानी?आग को भी क्या नहीं पहचानता है तू?
मैं न वह जो स्वप्न पर केवल सही करते,आग में उसको गला लोहा बनाता हूँ,और उस पर नींव रखता हूँ नये घर की,इस तरह दीवार फौलादी उठाता हूँ।
मनु नहीं, मनु-पुत्र है यह सामने, जिसकीकल्पना की जीभ में भी धार होती है,बाण ही होते विचारों के नहीं केवल,स्वप्न के भी हाथ में तलवार होती है।
स्वर्ग के सम्राट को जाकर खबर कर दे-रोज ही आकाश चढ़ते जा रहे हैं वे,रोकिये, जैसे बने इन स्वप्नवालों को,स्वर्ग की ही ओर बढ़ते आ रहे हैं वे।

our real wealth..

A conversation...this was narrated by an IAF pilot to IIT students on special seminar for HUMAN RELATION.My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off.In fact, my father had never traveled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him experience the same. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Jet Airways.The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air.The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen. He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him.When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me.But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life. As a child how many dreams our parents have made come true.Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for cricket bats, dresses, toys, outings, etc.Irrespective of their affordability, they have catered to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes?Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?Same way, today when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have to give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc.But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot.For our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young. It is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience.When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments.Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care need to be given to our parents and elders. Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream.I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes. Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also.They have wishes, too.Remember...TAKE CARE OF YOUR PARENTS.THEY ARE OUR REAL WEALTH....

कशमकस

कशमकस हैं जीने की
या कशमकस ज़िन्दगी की ॥
कशमकस हैं अपने अस्तित्व की
या कशमकस हैं दूसरों की आशाओं की ॥
कशमकस मन की
या कशमकस तम्मानों की ॥
कशमकस बल की है
या कशमकस पैसें की ॥
कशमकस आज के लिए है
या कशमकस कल की है ॥
कशमकस दोस्ती की हैं
या कशमकस मतलब की है ॥
कशमकस udane की हैं
या कशमकस बह जाने की हैं ॥
कशमकस dikhane ki hai
ya कशमकस chuppane ki hai ..
कशमकस jeet ki hai
ya कशमकस haar ki hai ..
कशमकस ashaon ki hain
ya कशमकस ghor nirashaon ki hai ..
कशमकस man me chhupe baat ki hai
ya कशमकस ankahi baat ki hai ..
कशमकस samjhane ki hai
ya कशमकस samjhaane ki hai ..
कशमकस apne ki hai
ya कशमकस apnane ki hai ..
कशमकस kewal apni hai
ya कशमकस zamaane ki hai ..
कशमकस mit jaane ki hai
ya कशमकस aasman ko choo jaane ki hai ..

LIVE LIKE A TREE!!!

Like A TREE..
WE GROW UPWARD TOWARDS LIGHTS WITH OUR ROOT PLANTED DEEPLY
A STRONG TREE STAND TO ITS GROUND
BUT CAN BEND ITS BRANCHES WHENEVER NECCESSARY

PAST GRUDGES AND REMORSES MUST BE RELEASE
IN ORDER FOR TREE TO BLOOM
ACCEPT LIFE CYCLES...
N USE UR TIME WISELY
LEAVE A POSITIVE LEGACY.......

तकदीर बड़ी,तदबीर बड़ी?????

तकदीर बड़ी,तदबीर बड़ी
तकदीर बड़ी,तदबीर बड़ी
कभी इधर खड़ी ,कभी उधर खड़ी
कभी इधर खड़ी ,कभी उधर खड़ी
उलझी है पड़ी ये बुद्धि बड़ी..
चलो माना की तकदीर बड़ी
अब इधर खड़ी ये बुद्धि बड़ी
चलो मन की तकदीर बड़ी
अब इधर खड़ी ये बूढी बड़ी
ये सुन के तोह मन उछल रहा
जब ये होगा तो वो होगा
जब वो होगा तो वो होगा
ये वो में यह मन फिसल रहा
ये वो में यह मन फिसल रहा
जो शत्रु खडा वो सोच रहा
न तेरा ये होगा,न वो होगा
मैंने बोला: तू लगा ले बल,तू कर ले छल
तू लगा ले बल,तू कर ले छल
जो आज है पल, जो होगा कल
जितना है लिखा मेरा होगा..
तब मन था तकदीर बड़ी
अब माना की तदबीर बड़ी
तब मन था तकदीर बड़ी
अब मन की तदबीर बड़ी
तू मेहनत कर,तू मेहनत कर
खुद ही तुझे लड़ना होगा
ये लगन के पर,ये लगन के पर
जितना कर ले उतना होगा
ये वक़्त नहीं सो जाने का
तुझ को तो अभी जागना होगा..
जो शत्रु खडा वो बोल रहा
इतनी मेहनत,इतनी मेहनत
में पाऊँगा बिन मेहनत के
मेहनत करके भी तुझे झुकना होगा..
मैंने बोले: तू सोच रहा न कर रहा
में सोच रहा और कर भी रहा
बिन मेहनत के तेरा क्या होगा....
न इधर खडा,न उधर खडा
न इधर खडा,न उधर खडा
बस टाक रहा ये बुद्धि बड़ा
तकदीर मेरी,तदबीर मेरी
तकदीर मेरी,तदबीर मेरी
अब जाना की पूरक है यह
न एक रहा तो क्या होगा??
न एक रहा तो क्या होगा??

The Echo Of Life!!!

A son and his father were walking on the mountains.
Suddenly, the son falls, hurts himself and screams: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!" To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!" Curious, he yells: "Who are you?" He receives the answer: "Who are you?" Angered at the response, he screams: "Coward!" He receives the answer: "Coward!" He looks to his father and asks: "What's going on?" The father smiles and says: "My son, pay attention." And then he screams to the mountain: "I admire you!" The voice answers: "I admire you!" Again the man screams: "You are a champion!" The voice answers: "You are a champion!" The boy is surprised, but does not understand.Then the father explains: "People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE. It gives you back everything you say or do. Our life is simply a reflection of our actions. If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart. If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence. This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life; Life will give you back everything you have given to it. YOUR LIFE IS NOT A COINCIDENCE. IT'S A REFLECTION OF YOU!

जब से जीवन में तुम आई हो ,

जब से जीवन में तुम आई हो ,
कुछ उम्मीद की झरने लायी हो I
बस जी रहा था तुम्हारा आने से पहले
तमन्नाए और खाविशएन फिर खा रहे हैं हिचकोलें
पलकों पर फिर खवाब उतरने लगें है
टूट गया था जो सपना
लगने लगा है फिर अपना
टूट गए थे जो धैर्य के मोती
फिर उन्हें पिरोने में लगा हूँ ई

To Be Continued......